That’s why we are always talking about the power of a tribe and the importance of NOT having a Flabby ASK™.   It takes a village to raise a business and if you don’t have the right support around you things can get pretty hairy.

For years I struggled with being a lone ranger.  I was so good at so many things that I found myself trying to do EVERYTHING in my business.  Only problem with that is… it’s NOT sustainable.  In fact it’s a guaranteed one way ticket to complete burn out.

I recently re-learned that lesson in my own life when I was struggling with some negative thoughts and feeling completely overwhelmed by my daily to-do list.

After a few weeks of trying to play it cool, I finally shared my fears and challenges with my team and guess what?  They rose to the occasion to support me on a much bigger level and now I have an opportunity to be supported in ways I’ve only ever dreamed of.

In life and business, we need others to help us get to where we want to go.

Whether that’s through building a team to support you, hiring a coach or mentor to help you see beyond your usual scope, or asking for support from your friends and family, it’s imperative that you reach out for the support you need, when you need it.

Who will you reach out to today to get the support YOU need?  

How you do anything is how you do everything.

So let’s do this exercise quickly…

Go get in front of a mirror and think about what you see.  Don’t process the information – look at yourself and think about what “you” is being reflected.

We’re not talking about gray hairs or wrinkles – we’re talking about values and strengths. 

How are you operating in your life?

Make a list of what you see.

Now take a look at what you wrote – was it Exciting?  Or was it Scary?

The one thing we want you take away from this exercise is what you see is what your potential clients see.  Only they see it magnified.  If you saw someone who is unsure of themselves they are seeing that 10 times.

Would you want to do business with someone who is unsure and not confident ?   I didn’t think so.

Mindset is very important in business and in life.   One of the most important things you can do in your business is have a mindset that radiates confidence, professionalism, and excitement.

We know you are wondering where can you start changing your mindset and we believe it all starts with your Belief System.

Next week we will get into helping you shine a light on your BS (Belief System).

In fact last week, we attended a blissful business retreat in the deep desert of Arizona where we had a fabulous time relaxing, eating delicious raw food, soaking for hours in a huge natural hot spring, learning new information and deeply connecting with other high-level entrepreneurs and forward thinking professionals.

It was heaven!

In fact, one major highlight was booking a coaching session with two of our favorite colleagues and mentors and doing that session while IN the hot springs.

It was an amazing experience that got us thinking about how we’ve been taught to do business in the “matrix world” and what can be created when you are willing to go outside the usual business box and invite new experiences in.

Getting coached while scantily clothed in a natural hot spring may not be your idea of business growth, (and possibly nowhere near your comfort zone), however, the idea of doing things outside of your comfort zone to get you seeing new results is what we specialize in here at Life Stylized.

Today’s featured video is about how we had a breakthrough is our ability to see things from a new perspective that wil directly translate to our ability to manifest.

If you want a little “behind the scenes” dialogue with us filmed while on vacation, check it out.

“Only he is successful in his business who makes that pursuit which affords him the highest pleasure sustain him.” – Henry David Thoreau

Even though I was excited for their success and inspired by the possibility it showed for me, there were many a times where I found myself getting downright negative and judgmental of my self because I had not yet “achieved” all that I wanted to for my life and business.

With every new email or facebook post I would read about someone else’s BIG breakthrough and massive success, I would find myself feeling bad and wondering if my day would ever come too.  

Have you ever felt like that?

After finally getting sick and tired of my own self-limiting thoughts, I figured out a way to make a shift.

What happened was, I began to realize that no matter how much outward action you might take to reach your goals, if you don’t have these KEY ingredients in your success recipe, you will wind up with a nice slice of mediocre pie and a much less satisfying result.

1.     Never, ever give up.

2.    It’s never as easy as it looks

3.    The inner work is just as important as the outer work.

4.    Believe in Yourself.

Let’s break these down…

1.) The key to achieving any amount of success is to stay in the game long enough to actually see the results.  Look at an Olympic athlete… they train for years to get to that one place where they become an “overnight success”.

Most entrepreneurs that I have met give up when they are three feet from the gold.  Then try a new project and do the same thing.  No wonder they get burnt out, frustrated and confused at why success does not happen for them.  In order to reach the gold you MUST never give up and if success is truly what you want get as much support, as you need to keep moving forward.

2.) You probably have heard the old saying “don’t judge a book by its cover.”  The same is true when comparing yourself to others.  There is a lot of hard work that goes into building a lasting business.

Everyone has had struggles and I mean everyone.  If you want an inspiring story read something from Oprah or Richard Branson.  They overcame many challenges and today are some of the wealthiest and respected entrepreneurs around.  If you can connect into your “WHY” (the reason you do what you do) then it will be so much easier to keep moving on when the going gets tough.

3.) We often say here at Life Stylized that “Your business can grow only as much as you grow.”  This is a piece of intel that is often missed by a new business owner.

When you are thinking thoughts that compel you forward and when you are feeling intuitively from a place of knowing you can make decisions that propel your business success.  If you fail to look inside and get support on your inner game (The thoughts you think and the way you feel) you will only have business as “big” as you are.

4.) Probably the number one place where we support our clients is with self worth.  Most of them love themselves and are doing the work.  However often times there is an underlying belief that they are not good enough and thoughts like “who would really care to buy from me anyways?”

Belief is the single most important ingredient to achieving anything in your life.  You must believe it first and then you will see it.  If you do not believe it you will always be looking and searching and never discover the success you desire.

Believing is seeing.

Most of us get into business knowing there is a need for our product or service based on a problem that our business is here to solve, but somewhere along the way, we forget to be clear on exactly WHO we really want to solve that problem for.

Therefore, what happens is we get our business going, things seem really great for a while and THEN… struggle sets in.  You might find yourself exhausted, getting more people saying no than yes, taking any kind of client because you need the money, and soon, you stop focusing on the important things and lose sight of why you got into business in the first place.

Can you relate?

Let’s face it, if you’re not clear on who you serve in your business, life as an entrepreneur can be pretty exhausting!  Good news is, we have the answer.  You ready for it?

You GET to SERVE the people that you LOVE!

Sound exciting?  It is!

One of the BEST things you can do to empower your business is to serve the people you most love and know you can help.  We call this YOUR TRIBE.

How do you know how to choose WHO you serve?

Here are THREE sure fire ways to figuring out the TRIBE you serve.

1. Who is your most favorite client EVER?  
In business, you actually get to help the people you love.  If something is working already and you’re getting results from a certain type of client, then that is where you need to put your attention.  By identifying this, you are one step closer to owning and discovering your tribe.  When you stay focused on that person, whom we call your avatar you begin to call that person in.  Its part of an old universal law which states… “What you focus on grows”.  Start focusing on your ideal client and you will start to see your ideal client in all areas of your life and business.

2. You know you can help them.
There are certain people that you think you can help and others that you KNOW you can help.  Most likely, the people you KNOW you can help are the ones that are most like you OR the those that you already have a great track record in helping (and that you ENJOY helping the most).  When you know the problem you solve, it’s much easier to identify the exact right people you are meant to serve.

3. You LOVE to help them.
Let’s be real.  We all know the difference between an amazing client and a pain in the a** client.  More often than not… ok… maybe most often, the most pain in the butt client is NOT your tribe.  When it comes to choosing your tribe (and seeing the results that come from serving them), you want to choose the people that you adore!  These are the clients that make running your business joyful and purpose-filled.  They love you, they pay you well, and they experience results and satisfaction from your products and services.

Based on these three qualifiers, you can easily fall back in love with you business, AND begin to tailor your marketing and networking efforts in a way that gets you the results you desire.  If you find yourself slipping back into working with people that don’t bring you the utmost joy, chances are you are trying to serve a tribe that is misaligned with your true purpose.

Remember what you focus on grows so start focusing on what you do want and not what you don’t!

What I DO hear (too often) is…

- I can’t seem to find the people willing to pay me for my services.
- I can’t afford to go to that.
- Business could be better.
- I’m tired of putting out so much effort and not getting ahead.
- People don’t seem to understand what I do.
- I should just lower my rates.
- I don’t have enough time for that.

Do any of these sound familiar?

If so then you really owe it to yourself to get your butt to our Cool Conscious Connections event happening TOMORROW at 3pm.

The key to successful business is about meeting people and creating solid relationships.

For that reason, we’ve made a huge effort to gather hundreds of amazing and top-notch professionals under one roof to help YOU grow your reach and your bottom line.

Not only are you going to make extraordinary connections, you will also learn a powerful new business strategy that will help you:

• Reach more people with less effort.
• Speak about what you do in a way that makes people eager to know more.
• Develop lasting and lucrative relationships with the right people.
• Enjoy the process of networking so much more!

If you’ve been dragging your heals on purchasing your ticket then today is the day!

Walk-ins are welcome but it will cost you more money and why do that? Save the extra money for all the coffee dates you’ll be having with your new connections after this event!

Say yes TODAY to experiencing the most fun learning and networking environment you’ve ever attended!

Get ready to meet more than a hundred of the coolest and most connected business professionals in the Capital Region.

You just have to SHOW UP!  Are you ready to show up?

Register TODAY!

Believing IS Seeing-

PS-  90% of success is just showing up.  Want to know what the other 10% is?  Join us to find out!  Register TODAY!

So, who are you hanging out with?  And do they help to uplift you?

If not, then you owe it to yourself to meet some new peeps who are not only inspiring, but are committed to their growth!

Let me introduce to you a few…

Meet Peggy Gray, Clothing Designer with 22ShadesofGray.com

What makes Peggy cool?
Peggy Gray is an unstoppable woman. When most people her age would be retiring, Peggy decided to step UP her game by expanding her business.

What makes Peggy worth knowing?
Peggy’s designs are a one of a kind style for women who value their uniqueness and want to express it.  If you’re looking for the perfect item to wear to any special occasion and beyond in your life, Peggy is the woman to help you create it.  Plus, Peggy is also a expert astrologist whose readings will totally transform the way you see yourself.

Peggy is a queen networker and she wouldn’t miss Cool Conscious Connections for the anything.  Come join her!

Meet Raya Ioffe, Digestive Health Coach with RayaWellness.com

What makes Raya cool?
Raya is a woman with many talents- yoga teacher, massage therapist, digestive expert, accomplished swing dancer and now a pro-biotic foods and beverage maker and a mother of two- wowza!

What makes Raya worth knowing?
Besides the fact that her natural pro-biotic sodas are DELICIOUS, Raya is a mover and a shaker when it comes to elevating her business.  She is the sole bread winner of her family and know what it takes to face her fears and move ahead with her entrepreneurial dreams.

Raya is one hot connection to make at the Cool Conscious Connections event.

Meet Charlie Samuels, Filmmaker and Photographer at CharlieSamuels.com

What makes Charlie cool?
Charlie is the definition of COOL.  He is a community activist, artist, snowboarder, photographer, father of two and still rides his skateboard at the age of 50.

What makes Charlie worth knowing?
Charlie knows how to get things done when it comes to change.  He’s a man about town and works diligently with the city to create forward thinking projects for all of us to benefit from.  Plus he’s well connected in the snowboarding industry, in fact his Photography is featured on the 2012-2013 Burton Snowboards.

Charlie will be working his magic at the Cool Conscious Connections event.  Will you?

Don’t miss out!  Register Today! 

This is NOT your average seminar and networking event. Watch this video to find out why…

And due to a technical glitch with our web hosting provider we’ve extended the early bird price of $45 all the way through the day of the event.  But make sure to register in advance cause it’s $60 at the door.

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I want to share with you a few people of influence in our community that are definitely worth knowing and connecting with.

Why?

Well for one, they are super cool people (I’ll share more on why in just a minute)
and second, they have worked their butts off to get to where they are and these amazing peeps have a great deal knowledge and resources to share with you!

Let me introduce to you…

Abigail Thurston of DanceWithFibro.com  

What makes Abigail cool?
A fibromyalgia success story herself, Abigail has dedicated her life work to helping women diagnosed with fibromyalgia regain their energy and love for life back.  She is a true life story of what kind of healing is possible when you believe in and stay committed to your healing process.

What makes Abigail worth knowing is that she is one of the most well-known and well connected healers in the Capital region.  Abigail is one of the organizers and leaders of the Saratoga Integrative Practitioners Network (SIPN) in Saratoga Springs and she has done wonders to boost and expand their social media presence along with the online presence of others who are part of this network.

Abigail will be attending our Cool Conscious Connections event so come on out to meet her and the other 300+ Cool Conscious Business owners definitely worth knowing!

Meet Konni Harrison, Financial Concierge with KMHunlimited.com

What makes Konni cool?
Her willingness to step outside of her comfort zone to create a new model for doing business in the financial industry.

What makes Konni worth knowing?
After nearly two decades of hard earned efforts in the financial industry field, Konni discovered a huge and important piece missing for her clients and herself.  Even though working for herself was scary and foreign, she has stepped up to the plate to fill this need in the marketplace with her new business!

She’s is a woman to know and model and she too will be at the Cool Conscious Connections event!  Will you?

Meet Karen Charbonneu, Wellness Consultant & Real Estate Agent, LivingHealthyRocks.com

What makes Karen cool?
Karen is committed to learning about people in her community and volunteers much of her precious time to worthwhile community organizations.  She values relationships and takes extra care to make personal connections with almost every person she meets.  She also drives motorcycles and loves to build things.

What makes Karen worth knowing?
Besides her warm and welcoming personality, Karen also knows how to connect people.  She has build a solid network of business professionals in the Saratoga Region (and beyond) and pretty much knows everybody worth knowing.

Will you be at Cool Conscious Connections to meet Karen and her tribe?

Only 2 days left to save money on the early bird ticket price.

Get in on it.  Register TODAY!
Early bird special price ends tomorrow.

See you there!

There was lots of love brought to the streets of Saratoga Springs, and it was truly amazing meeting and connecting with everyone in such a powerful way. It is clear that this is a very special community, and people were yearning for more chances to gather.

Let’s keep building these connections. The next big event that we are holding is Cool Conscious Connections, and it is coming up soon. This will be another powerful event that will help to connect you with even more conscious folks! Whether you want to expand your personal network, or build your business, this event is not to be missed.

You can’t be part of the change if you don’t show up.

Please take a moment to register for the next event to continue to build this community.