I used to love that famous Bobby McFerrinsong from the 80s… Don’t Worry, Be Happy because it is such a simple, yet profound message on the power of choice in every moment to stop our worrying and instead choose happiness.
Don’t worry, be happy
In every life we have some trouble
But when you worry, you make it double
Don’t worry, be happy
Don’t worry, be happy now
… And yet every day I witness women worrying about things that over time, creates a negative impact on their happiness and well being.
We worry about money, our kids, our loved ones, our spouses. We worry if will we get the promotion or if we’re doing a good job. We worry if we look fat in this dress or what so and so will think of us.
The list of our day to day worries are endless. And the impact that it has on our happiness is colossal.
Well, I’ve got one thing to say to all you ‘worry warts’ out there…
“Worrying is like praying for things you don’t want.”
It doesn’t help you or the person/thing you’re most worried about.
The Law of Attraction states, that like attracts like. Or more simply put, what you focus on grows.
So, if you are someone that tends to think up worst case scenarios or find yourself awake at night fretting over things that you really have no control over, then you are, in essence, calling things that you don’t want into your life.
And the more you focus on what you don’t want, the more you continue to create a habitual way of thinking that will ultimately cause you to experience more of what you don’t want.
Worrying can take a major toll on your life if you are not mindful of where it creeps in. If you’re ready to stop worrying and re-pattern your worry tendencies, you must be willing to:
1. Accept that worrying does not help
2. Stay in the moment and stop “Future Thinking”
3. Get clear on what you DO want to happen
4. Start focusing on Feel Good thoughts toward what you DO want
5. Get out of your head and in to your body. Movement (of any kind) is a great mind distraction.
Remember, you are the only one who can change your worry into wonder, but it helps to have a like-minded community of women to support you in this.
If you’re in the upstate NY area and are ready to become a warrior, not a worrier, then be sure to register to join us live for our next Power Circle for Women event happening on Tuesday, July 14th at 7pm EST.