Are you ready to … speak up for yourself!
(Brought to you by our Brilliant team member, Alaina)
How many times have you been told to “speak up for yourself?” This week, we’ll take a quick look at what that really means.
When I notice that I am triggered during a discussion or interaction with my man, my default mode in the past has been to tell him exactly what is going through my mind at the time. I’m speaking up for myself, stating my truth, right?
As I’ve moved through a path of self-awareness, what I’ve come to realize is often in those initial moments of being triggered, what is going on in my mind or what I’m feeling in my emotions is not my truth or the actual truth. In fact, what’s going on in those moments is a reaction to a trigger.
When any of us get triggered it is always a sign-post that there is some more healing to be done. Being aware of this leads to greater intimacy with my man.
What I am learning to do now is to take some time and reflect on those thoughts and feelings; to give myself space to let the charge of the interaction fade so that I can get to the root of what’s really going on. Then, I can make a choice from a calm and centered place about whether or not this is an issue that I’ve done the work on and can let go, or if it is something I want to communicate to my man.
It’s important to note that there is a real difference between sitting/reflecting with thoughts and feelings to let the truth or root of the issue surface and not saying anything at all and letting those thoughts and feelings fester.
If I choose to sit with something, I make sure that I engage in activities that will encourage the charge to fade and energy to transmute, such as yoga, dance, or drawing. This allows me an accurate gauge to find out the truth and then share that truth with the parties that be.
Since this is YOUR week, will you create some space around speaking up for yourself?
Notice where you get triggered and take a step back or where you may not want to hold on to something and instead consciously communicate a concern to another person.
If you are feeling bold and want to SPEAK UP FOR YOURSELF Share an A-ha Below!